tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post3415519685262343211..comments2023-10-20T02:31:27.135-07:00Comments on Public Christianity: Hand Up or Handout? (repost)Fatha Frankhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15763574263631576373noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-33282127733897220112010-06-17T06:24:26.533-07:002010-06-17T06:24:26.533-07:00Caryjo, I recommend reading "Codependent No M...Caryjo, I recommend reading "Codependent No More". It's a great book and explains a lot of how we tick. I've been meaning to dust off my copy as well.Fatha Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763574263631576373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-5083073029299983432010-06-16T20:26:10.757-07:002010-06-16T20:26:10.757-07:00You are right. I have quite a number of addicts i...You are right. I have quite a number of addicts in our family, and it truly is hard to deal with the "enabling" definition. Helping in a good way at a good time is simply being compassionate, following the Lord's hand/heart. But there are other times when those instinctive, in my case, "knee-jerk" responses from many years of being the "responsible" one... my husband calls it "throwing myself on other people's grenades" ... enables them and tosses me back into codependent emotional behavior. However, I'd rather help too much than too little. [My husband is a servant-hearted man, so he's not saying "Don't" he's just reminding me to pull back and get a clearer view before I dive in to some of the situations around us.-- it's called "wisdom."]<br /><br />Thanks for your insights.caryjohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488368153291827383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-20347898621256086562010-06-16T15:57:21.727-07:002010-06-16T15:57:21.727-07:00Thanks everyone for your encouragement and your co...Thanks everyone for your encouragement and your comments. It helps to fight the battle knowing you have others in the fight with you!Fatha Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763574263631576373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-35557949491707614982010-06-15T20:11:26.364-07:002010-06-15T20:11:26.364-07:00It's true there is a fine line... but words wi...It's true there is a fine line... but words without actions doesn't do a darn thing either. I think that reaching out is exactly what Jesus would want us to do, and that's why He brings these people into our lives.<br /><br />Keep up the good work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-37557680815295505472010-06-15T19:50:02.919-07:002010-06-15T19:50:02.919-07:00Such a fine line between enabling and helping. Tha...Such a fine line between enabling and helping. That's a struggle for me sometimes. Okay, a lot. <br /><br />We're responsible to respond to the call and leave the results to God.<br /><br />What a blessing you are in the lives of the least!Sandra Heska Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13770393615748405966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-17532593046532110482010-06-15T07:00:01.192-07:002010-06-15T07:00:01.192-07:00Wow, working with people is messy, isn't it? D...Wow, working with people is messy, isn't it? Don't you wish they were more like widgets that we could completely control? Alas, we keep on keeping on.<br /><br />Stay strong! God bless you.Scott Couchenourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17939632235358634779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-27474331368791843882010-06-15T06:34:52.552-07:002010-06-15T06:34:52.552-07:00Thanks, Glynn and Kathy! It is messy and I pray th...Thanks, Glynn and Kathy! It is messy and I pray they do remember it and it draws them closer to Christ. I only wish I could do more and that I could care even less what other people think.Fatha Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763574263631576373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-36918937736848060572010-06-15T05:16:44.615-07:002010-06-15T05:16:44.615-07:00It's a messy business to be sure--but it is th...It's a messy business to be sure--but it is the sick who need a doctor, otherwise what the heck are we doing anyway except taking care of our own needs and those in our immediate circle? Will you enable some? Probably. But God will judge, and I appreciate people like you who care more about what God thinks and less about what other people think.katdishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09210738418270395622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048814.post-6216656052415177932010-06-14T21:34:10.585-07:002010-06-14T21:34:10.585-07:00I think we're told to minister and care for th...I think we're told to minister and care for the least of these. That's what you're doing here. And they will remember it, even if you never hear from them again.Glynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10802111972232088511noreply@blogger.com