Of course I already knew this- he was a worship leader.
I wasn't in any of the pictures. The narcissist in me always feels insecure at times like these- doubting the depth and value of our friendship- but the reality was that I lived an hour and a half away. As I was watching his pictures- fooling around with mixed martial arts, out on the shooting range, cooking dinner with his buds- I was content to admit that that's just not me. Does that make me less of a friend? Of course not! But the context of our friendship is different. While the friends in these pictures stood beside him on his wedding day, I was behind the scenes as his wedding coordinator. (I need to be reminded sometimes that I "have the gift of administration" and I fail badly when I try and be something I'm not)
There are different kinds of friends: the goof-offs, the memory-makers, the initiators, the deep all-night talkers; then there are the rocks, those friends who will always be there in any time and any circumstance. I'm embarrassed not to be the former, but I recognize the need for the latter.
When I got married, I told my wife that I was like a faithful old dog- she won't be able to get rid of me, I'll follow wherever she goes, and I smell and drool. I think I'm pretty boring; she tells me she was attracted to me because I'm interesting. My daughter thinks I'm funny. I think both are lying to make me feel better (just kidding, I just struggle to see myself that way).
So some of my best friends are worship leaders. I need those friends- the outgoing, the flamboyant, the risk-takers. At the same time they need me- the introvert, the faithful, the reliable.
How would you describe your style of friendship?
Are you comfortable in that role?